Monday, January 19, 2015

Easy as 123, It's Always Midnight (Another Episode of the Dating Chronicles)

Normally, I'd try to leave my BOTB post up just a little bit longer (so that anyone who has yet to vote will see it in their reading list) BUT I don't think there is any hope for this battle getting close. So, I'm moving on. Of course, you can still vote until the 21st. Just click back one post, listen, and vote.

I've been trying to find tie-ins for this uber-fun exercise for me of introducing you to Train albums (via the song from the name of the track) plus one more I like by figuring out a way to tie the whole mess into my life. That makes everyone happy. Those of you who like music get some and those who just want to read the dirt get that. And some of you get both.

Well, after the abysmal failure of For Me, It's You Train disbanded. Wikipedia says they went on a three year hiatus (like it was planned or something). "We're going to all go our separate ways for three years and then get back to making music. Rock on." (This is not a real quote. I made it up.) I don't think it was like that. At all. I think that Pat Monahan (lead singer) was tired of playing parent to many of his band members with drug and alcohol problems. After For Me, It's You did so badly, he threw in the towel. (Conjecture on my part.) They all parted ways and he made his one and only solo album to date: Last of Seven. Yeah, he was the youngest of seven children. Normally, I would post that song but it's not on YouTube. That gives me leeway to just pick and choose.

While you listen to a track, Always Midnight, that I think is quite wonderful (though never released) and embodies the feel of this album, I'll get down to the "story" part of this post, though it is a "real" video and totally watchable:)





Seems like it's always midnight
Sweepin' up broken glass after every fight
But the sound of a train that I could have been on
Remindin' me that the last one's gone
With you it's always midnight


Well, I want to lunch with the tree guy last week. I managed to get his full name when he called me (showed up on my caller ID) so that meant I had his full name. As a Numerology Nut, you have to KNOW that I immediately ran his numbers. I then called him back and asked him for his birthday. I needed that to get the rest of his numbers. I knew I might sound crazy, but I didn't care. I wanted to know what animal I was dealing with... well, that would've been much more helpful if I'd numbered the R in his name as a "9," which it is, instead of a "5," which it isn't. So, I got two out of three name numbers wrong. Accchhhh.

I learned a lot on this lunch. I think I told you that this is a guy who was divorced in 2011. The thing is that he married his high school sweetheart, didn't want the divorce, and has only just started dating (reluctantly). He spent four years convinced that his ex-wife would change her mind. It is only now occurring that it isn't gonna happen. So, in some ways the song  "Always Midnight" is about the tree guy and the way he's seeing life right now. (That's the tie-in, peeps!)

Meanwhile, I got some nice surprises during this lunch. He wanted to pray at the restaurant before we ate. (Good thing) He told the other girl he's dating that he wants to slow things down. I suspect that means to a crawl, since he doesn't seem to be a fast mover. hahahaha. (And another good thing)

What did his numbers tell me once I did them correctly? Well... his first three numbers (the name numbers) are 123. In that order. That is significant all by itself (and fairly rare). That is a person who must do things in the correct order. 123. So, it isn't surprising that being derailed by a divorce he didn't want has thrown him for a loop. How do you get back to 1 after that? It's occurring to me that this isn't anything I can solve for him. He's going to have to figure it out all by himself. However, I think he's a good guy, and once he makes some internal decisions and accepts some current realities, he'll get back to 1 (and his old self). Meanwhile, I'll keep plugging away at my own issues (migraines, remember???) while he does his thing. Maybe our two things will meet. And maybe not.

But if they do, it could look something like this:



She's not afraid, she just likes to use her nightlight.

Yep.

24 comments:

  1. >>... Seems like it's always midnight
    Sweepin' up broken glass after every fight
    But the sound of a train that I could have been on
    Remindin' me that the last one's gone
    With you it's always midnight


    That almost sounds Tom Waits-like.

    >>... Maybe our two things will meet. And maybe not.

    And that almost sounds porn-like.

    Just finished watching all the episodes of 'JOAN OF ARCADIA', Season 1, Disc 3. GREAT! Some of the best episodes yet. (And I recognized some scenes that you had embedded for my 'Ferret-Faced Fascist Friends' going away / retirement party. But taken out of context like that, I really didn't understand them much. Now I do.)

    I'm totally back into it again. Brother Nappy watched 'em with me and likewise said that it's ridiculous that they cancelled this show after two seasons when it is obviously better than almost all the shit being shown on TV today. And I said, "They HAD to cancel it! It was not only talking about God but displaying God in a positive Light. That's intolerable today!"

    Anyway, I'm now looking forward to the next disc. I liked the episode where Rocky died. And in the last one I saw, I cracked up when they totally "got me" with the vending machine guy. I was sure that was God, when he said, "Change comes from within" and Joan got all over his case for the trite platitude and then it turns out to be... just a vending machine guy. Ha!-Ha! That'll teach me not to be overconfident in the future.

    Say, did you get the Email I sent on January 17th? That was an experiment. I actually sent that from my work computer while logged into my home computer's Email system. i discovered that I could do that - had no idea for the last year and a half that I've been working these horrible graveyard shi(f)ts and relying on the unreliable Email system at work.

    ~ D-FensDogg
    'Loyal American Underground'

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  2. No free lunches anymore. Haha Seems there is always a catch to everything. Numerology does sound interesting when I hear the "number gals" talk about it on the radio.
    It's getting closer to springtime in the rockies. Yay...Yay

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  3. Very wise decision, Robin! That is, regarding the notion that you can't be the solution to his problems. You can be yourself, and if you enjoy his company, you can spend time with him.But he'll have to work out his own feelings about the dissolution of his marriage before he can move on in a positive way and not just date on the rebound.

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  4. Robin, I love reading your posts. This one sounds like it might be worth hanging in there a bit.

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  5. This is why people should not date until they fully heal, in my opinion. Makes me wonder if he's even close to ready for dating...

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  6. Dating? Is that when young people go out socially on two occasions and then move in together? Why doesn't that ever work? Oh well. I am a Train fan and was going to e-mail you about Pat M. and the AFC Football Championship game when he delivered the national anthem. Did you see it? If not, find it. He did a great job.

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  7. StMc ~ Almost porn-like. Hahahaha. Did you watch the song videos? I think you'd really like the first one. The second one actually contains a lyric that goes like this: "She's a Gemini Capricorn. Thinks all men are addicted to porn." Hahahaha. Regarding your email: yes, I did get out. Didn't realize you'd sent it from work. I wasn't sure how to respond to it, since you seemed to be on the downside of liking JOA (yes, there are certain elements that will cease to surprise you and lose their "wow factor," but I think the lesson in each one is pretty darn awesome). Anyway, glad you're back to liking it (and you're absolutely right about the reason it was cancelled... Given the circumstances, I'm shocked it made it TWO seasons).

    Manzi ~ Well, I could go on an on about numerology and the science behind it, but it feels a bit self-indulgent.

    Dianne ~ Yes, understanding where he is makes it easier for me to just back up a step. People must do things in their own time. In fact, if anyone understands that it's ME. I haven't dated anyone since 2009, because my migraines were ruling my life. If you can't bring something to the table, you have no business being there.

    Karen ~ Yes, I agree. He just needs time and space to sort out the reality that is now his life.

    OE ~ I'm not sure either, which is why I'm backing up a bit and giving him room. Ever had an experience where you knew logically that something was true, but you couldn't quite accept it in your heart? But, enough time rolls by and you must accept it. I think his being willing to date is the first step toward that acceptance. I'm more than happy for him to work out the kinks of the matter on someone else. In other words, decide 1) Yes, I'm ready to date, but 2) I don't want to date YOU. In other words, I think it's good that he's getting a glimpse of what's out there (because a lot of it ain't pretty). He told me she just took a job as a bartender in the redneck bar where I sing karaoke. I knew he wasn't thrilled with that decision, but felt he had no claim on her to register his dislike of it. Eventually, I think he will reach the conclusion that they are two different species. The thing is it is good that he's having this experience. We all have to decide who we want in our lives and who we don't. The fact that he's even making these decisions shows that he's moving on. AND, as I said somewhere above, I didn't date for A VERY LONG TIME because I was so sick and didn't feel able to do it.... so if anyone understands where he's at, I do, in my own way.

    JJ ~ Not my definition of dating and I think I can safely say not his either. He strikes me as the sort of person who will be cautious about the whole thing (and probably doesn't believe in living together outside of marriage). Can't that with certainty, but I bet that's right. I'll look for the clip you mentioned. I'd love to see/hear it.

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  8. "Train" is so appropriate. There's an engine driven by head, heart, something else, depending on the individual. Lots of cars full of garbage, treasures, pleasures, desires, depending again on each one's interpretation of their life events. And the caboose, though I love red, doesn't have to be painted that color. Enjoying the ride while supervising on-going maintenance. Very nice, Robin. So, too are the videos.

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  9. Keep listening to music and I hope you are not dealing with migraines at the moment. My friend just had botox again(she lost count after 30 needles). She is not well from this and wondering if it's worth it. You and this man must be both in the right frame to be able to go out with who ever you go out with (that includes tree man who also must heal). Is he still seeing that other gal? I wonder if he is over his ex? Hope it all works out but you have a good idea to deal with you and be kind to you first (and stilll have fun)

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  10. Did you see Pat do the national anthem at one of the conference championship games this weekend? (I think the seattle game) He did one of the best jobs on it I've heard in a very long time.

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  11. What a beautiful music/real life story tie in. What a neat idea! I love it. I hope you're finding some relief from migraine headaches. Oh those are so awful. Going slowly in a new relationship, even a friendship, is a good thing. It's good to feel things out and make certain that you and the other person are on the same page. I hope everything works out for the best for both you AND tree guy. It sounds like he has a lot of healing to do.

    Jen

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  12. Interesting development. I like this story so far :)

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  13. Oh my friend, it seems you and I are or were (for me) dating the same person. My guy is divorced but she left him and now, she's back and well, I'm out of the picture. I hope he's nice and makes you laugh. :)

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  14. I liked both of the songs. As for your description of the guy, aside from the tree thing, his situation sounds so much like me after my second divorce which I did not want at all. I hoped a restoration would come about but after she remarried and then dumped a couple more guys liked she dumped me I started sensing she was mentally wacko. I think I ended up with the far better deal with my current wife. I feel bad for my kids now because they're stuck with their mother and don't quite know what to do with her. I'm not taking her back that's for sure!

    Maybe this tree guy might be okay. Unless the prayer thing was just a show for you. Take it carefully and slow. It's gonna take more than one lunch to get the full story and you've gotta tend to yourself as well.

    Good luck with it all. Gosh all this dirt makes me feel like a peeping tom or like I've tapped into your phone or read your diary. Oh well, you put it here for us, right?

    Lee
    Tossing It Out

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  15. I'm glad you and the tree guy are both on the same page about taking it slow. It might be fun just to let the friendship continue for a bit. Sorry your migraines are back. Take care of yourself, Robin!

    Julie

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  16. Baby steps. For all involved. I am really enjoying getting to know Train.

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  17. Glad to hear things are going better (and slow) with tree guy. Even if it's just a friendship, it's still something positive.

    I'm fascinated by numerology, but my numbers suck. Mine came back as 867 5309 and now Jenny won't stop calling. :(

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  18. Does sound like a good guy. Hope the first impression holds up and the migraines take a break.

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  19. Hard to take it slow with love, but it is a wise thing to do. Keep being awesome! :)

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  20. I like that midnight song....the concept of dating is undoubtedly what makes the concept of marriage palatable.

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  21. Hope this one works well for you. Keep us posted.

    I've never been into numerology. I used to dabble in astrology but when the stars said I should NOT marry a Gemini and that May 10 was a bad day for life changing actions, I tossed the book and married my Gemini. We'll be celebrating our 46th anniversary this May 10th.

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  22. I don't know much about numerology...my problem is, I am an Earth sign and I keep dating Water signs...

    Together, we make mud!

    Larry

    (I stole that from Rodney)

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  23. Hope your migraines are moving on. Really liked the songs!

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