tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post6305463372868356059..comments2024-01-01T10:05:13.685-05:00Comments on YOUR DAILY DOSE: The Soundtrack of My Life, Unwinding My RomanceRobinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-87700485644853796042015-06-27T10:13:48.127-04:002015-06-27T10:13:48.127-04:00This made me sad. It's something I would have...This made me sad. It's something I would have been thinking about all these years later, too...an epic failure to communicate that niggled forever. Somewhere in the world, I hope J2 gets a chance to read this post.Lizahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16170701034715108039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-55550221552948728442015-06-27T04:45:15.233-04:002015-06-27T04:45:15.233-04:00:-O
~ D-FensDogG<b>:-O</b><br /><br />~ D-FensDogGStephen T. McCarthyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00249125637725791567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-47238014226176279972015-06-26T18:24:11.078-04:002015-06-26T18:24:11.078-04:00Shady knows what he's talkin' about. Good ...Shady knows what he's talkin' about. Good comment, Shady.Janie Junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10573607241326291404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-18971687349417536082015-06-25T09:18:16.910-04:002015-06-25T09:18:16.910-04:00Get a puppy.... hahahaha. That's a good one.Get a puppy.... hahahaha. That's a good one.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-26246100654842243772015-06-25T00:02:35.978-04:002015-06-25T00:02:35.978-04:00I almost forgot...the puppy is probably smarter, t...I almost forgot...the puppy is probably smarter, too!DiscConnectedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07013919800637508392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-11763353763770514422015-06-24T23:43:51.209-04:002015-06-24T23:43:51.209-04:00I now recommend to women that they opt for a puppy...I now recommend to women that they opt for a puppy rather than dating me...the puppy is far cuter, will communicate better, and can be trained not to sleep on the couch.DiscConnectedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07013919800637508392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-32630051171074097622015-06-24T23:41:48.552-04:002015-06-24T23:41:48.552-04:00:-O
~ D-FensDogG<b>:-O</b><br /><br />~ D-FensDogGStephen T. McCarthyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00249125637725791567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-89144391694341071872015-06-24T23:35:55.513-04:002015-06-24T23:35:55.513-04:00I'm sorry I messed up my list and I'm sorr...I'm sorry I messed up my list and I'm sorry for the big guffaw that came out when you told me, ha ha. I fixed it...Cherdohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00264612202714933480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-45634724208467435612015-06-24T22:25:15.282-04:002015-06-24T22:25:15.282-04:00Well, I'm single, LC... Whadda ya think????Well, I'm single, LC... Whadda ya think????Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-16486222893049187812015-06-24T21:05:59.650-04:002015-06-24T21:05:59.650-04:00The comments have been interesting.
I see this as...The comments have been interesting.<br /><br />I see this as both parties making mistakes. If either one of had done even one thing differently, the outcome would've been entirely better. If he'd asked, called more regularly, actually stated our "status" out loud (and acted accordingly)... any of those things would have helped. If I'd asked about the dance, turned down the other guy, or even not dropped the bomb in front of his friends... well, we could've talked about it like reasonable adults. <br /><br />Alas, none of that happened. Honestly, I think it's a bit of a shame for both of us. But, I still appreciate you saying he was the Bigger Loser. (in that he lost me!) Ha!Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-25667784524932948732015-06-24T21:03:07.160-04:002015-06-24T21:03:07.160-04:00There are times when no other word will do. So... ...There are times when no other word will do. So... noted! Glad you get this one:)Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-67846886951774471942015-06-24T21:02:25.920-04:002015-06-24T21:02:25.920-04:00Yep, we had differing ideas on what the "stat...Yep, we had differing ideas on what the "status" was. I think some people, and when I say "some people," I mean ME, has to learn things the hard way. When in doubt: ask!Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-71854527782502807182015-06-24T21:01:20.235-04:002015-06-24T21:01:20.235-04:00Yeah, I think that we can safely say that this one...Yeah, I think that we can safely say that this one shipwrecked due to inexperience. Now, how the heck am I going to splain all the disasters that come after this one????<br /><br />Yes, I did watch those videos on how men and women communicate. They were very funny (and still true). <br /><br />I would love to find out what he thought about this at the time (now) and how he sees it now. BUT, I can't find him on social media anywhere, which is probably for the best, because that conversation might be as awkward as the one on the night of my formal;)!<br /><br />He was a handsome fella. And a nice one. I don't want to paint him any other way. He wasn't a good communicator, but he was a heck of a nice guy. We just weren't on the same page... at all.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-91563116096756688592015-06-24T19:52:25.507-04:002015-06-24T19:52:25.507-04:00Hi, dear Robin! I think a scenario similar to thi...Hi, dear Robin! I think a scenario similar to this unfolded on an old episode of Leave It To Beaver when Wally ended up with two prom dates. Or maybe it was Mary Stone or Betty Anderson that I'm thinking about. <br /><br />I see that many people have already commented. I haven't yet read any of the comments or replies. I promise that I am not going to copy off of someone else's paper or suck up to you and tell you what I think you want to hear in an attempt to score bloggy friendship points. That said, I honestly do fully support you and blame J2 for having the arrogance to assume that you and he were going to his formal. It implied that you were a possession of his and could be taken for granted. It is tradition and common courtesy for the man to ask the woman to an event of that magnitude and to do it in a timely manner so she isn't kept in the dark until the last minute. It served him right that you made other plans and dropped the bombshell when you did right in front of his friends. I don't care if you got smashed and hurled in the bushes. (I admired those traits in a girl because I did plenty of the same.) The point is that you deserved respect like anyone else and he didn't give it to you. Instead he became complacent and overconfident. He got burned, his ego got bruised and he broke it off with you. Shady says it was his loss. Shady Del Knighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03839935472941264414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-31682863599801761232015-06-24T19:09:45.848-04:002015-06-24T19:09:45.848-04:00Difficult situation. I wouldn't have known wha...Difficult situation. I wouldn't have known what to do. I fuck up frequently. If "fuck" bothers you, then please feel free to delete my comment. Sometimes it's the word I want and no other word will do.<br /><br />Love,<br />JanieJanie Junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10573607241326291404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-53098839361389256832015-06-24T18:50:14.672-04:002015-06-24T18:50:14.672-04:00It really sounds like the two of you had different...It really sounds like the two of you had different ideas about your relationship status. He was assuming you were a couple but not communicating that to you. Sorry it ended so painfully.<br /><a href="http://www.susangourley.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Susan Says</a>Susan Gourley/Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02669793865290876168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-8659086501017829762015-06-24T18:31:55.976-04:002015-06-24T18:31:55.976-04:00GIRL WONDER ~
As you now know, this is one that sh...GIRL WONDER ~<br />As you now know, this is one that shipwrecked due to inexperience. Both of you played a part in the demise but it would have been so easy for you to have saved it... which no doubt adds to the painful memory of it. <br /><br />Sure, he should have asked you about it, but the brains of men and women are wired totally differently and that's why we often don't "get" each other. (I have shared with you those videos by that Christian marriage counselor guy who explains all this in a very funny but incredibly accurate way, haven't I?)<br /><br />Back then, had you asked him if he was taking you to his formal, he likely would have answered with something like, "Well, duh!" or "Whadaya think, for crying-out-loud? No, I'm taking your grandma." Because, see, guys as a rule aren't talkers - we just process a situation and make our assumptions / decisions. Women, on the other hand, wanna talk about everything. Neither is right or wrong, it's simply the way our brains are literally "wired".<br /><br />Example: Women need to talk about romance and want to hear their guy say "those three little words". Guys don't say those words a whole lot because they figure their actions are speaking louder than those words could, anyway. And guys are more likely to "do" than "talk".<br /><br />So, this was just a very sad outcome, and I'll bet to this day he doesn't understand how / why it all went south. He should have asked you rather than assumed you knew. And you should have spoken up when you were carrying such confusion about the issue.<br /><br />Lesson learned.<br /><br />Too bad though, because in that second photo, dude looks like John Milner from 'American Graffiti'. And there was nuttin' wrong with John Milner's looks in 'American Graffiti'.<br /><br />~ D-FensDogG<br />'Loyal American Underground'Stephen T. McCarthyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00249125637725791567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-32975003719513427412015-06-24T18:20:30.683-04:002015-06-24T18:20:30.683-04:00I am sensing a "failed relationship" Sup...I am sensing a "failed relationship" Super Bowl....DiscConnectedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07013919800637508392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-71115369261639470342015-06-24T17:30:13.872-04:002015-06-24T17:30:13.872-04:00Yeah, that's what I'm thinking.
I wonder ...Yeah, that's what I'm thinking.<br /><br />I wonder what he would say about it NOW. Perspective is a funny thing.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-43191137891679140792015-06-24T17:28:24.047-04:002015-06-24T17:28:24.047-04:00You make me laugh.
Yeah, there was immaturity to ...You make me laugh.<br /><br />Yeah, there was immaturity to go around!Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-57928257980368335822015-06-24T16:57:02.506-04:002015-06-24T16:57:02.506-04:00I think we all can look back at some of the things...I think we all can look back at some of the things we did in years past and wonder, "What the hell was I thinking? WHY did I do (or say) that???" But hopefully, we live and learn. Obviously, neither of you was ready for a relationship at that point, because true relationships are built on communication, and neither of you was quite ready for that yet. But not your fault, and not his fault. Blame it on your combined immaturity, and perhaps to a lack in self-confidence.Susan Flett Swiderskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09425315552148200073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-52762536411138919092015-06-24T16:42:29.669-04:002015-06-24T16:42:29.669-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13708815560712267698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-61946307382968144042015-06-24T16:40:24.943-04:002015-06-24T16:40:24.943-04:00How could she do this to me?
lol.
ummm...you had...How could she do this to me?<br /><br />lol. <br />ummm...you had no codified or defined relationship.<br />He hadn't asked you.<br />and at the end of the day, when he could have put up a fuss he said "How could she do this to me?" <br />not us?<br />bullet dodged.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13708815560712267698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-7510626608336486812015-06-24T16:36:33.165-04:002015-06-24T16:36:33.165-04:00Your comment made me laugh. As this rolls out, you...Your comment made me laugh. As this rolls out, you'll see that I may just have you beat!Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8318801159753696568.post-86872936253620606792015-06-24T16:35:37.113-04:002015-06-24T16:35:37.113-04:00I never thought of it that way, CW, but you're...I never thought of it that way, CW, but you're right. I just decided to shake the tree and see what landed. Turns out, nothing good.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.com